Sunday, August 16, 2009

Following an argument with my wife several years ago, I ended up printing off a list of quotes regarding maturity. It was a rather cathartic activity, and the product is something I look back to from time to time as a reminder. Lately there has been discussion about what it means to be an adult, and I find it to be sidestepping the issue; adulthood and maturity are two entirely separate things.
We have not passed that subtle line between childhood and adulthood until we move from the passive voice to the active voice -- that is, until we stop saying "It got lost," and say "I lost it." Sydney J. Harris
The rate at which a person can mature is directly proportional to the embarrassment he can tolerate Douglas Engalbart
Maturity is: The ability to stick with a job until it's finished; The ability to do a job without being supervised; The ability to carry money without spending it; and The ability to bear an injustice without wanting to get even. Abigail Van Buren
Maturity of mind is the capacity to endure uncertainty. John Finley
To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh at yourself is maturity. William Arthur Ward
The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of a mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one. Willhelm Stekel
Maturity is the ability to think, speak, and act your feelings within the boundaries of dignity. The measure of your maturity is how spiritual you become during the midst of your frustrations. Samuel Ullman
I would say that the surest measure of a man's or a woman's maturity is the harmony, style, joy, and dignity he creates in his marriage, and the pleasure and inspiration he provides for his spouse. Benjamin Spock
Maturity is achieved when a person accepts life as full of tension. Joshua Loth Liebman
I think part of maturity is knowing who you are. If people don't like it, it is not going to affect how I feel. Rob Lowe
How often I have found that we grow to maturity not by doing what we like, but by doing what we should. How true it is that not every "should" is compulsion, and not every "like" is a high morality and true freedom. Karl Rahner
Character...is a habit, the daily choice of right over wrong; it is a moral quality which grows to maturity in peace and is not suddenly developed on the outbreak of war. Charles Wilson
One stops being a child when one realizes that telling one's trouble does not make it better. Cesare Pavese
In positive terms, we can state that psychological maturity entails finding greater satisfaction in giving than in receiving; having the capacity to form satisfying and permanent loyalties; being primarily a creative, contributing person; having learned to profit from experience; having a freedom from fear (anxiety) with a resulting true serenity and not a pseudo absence of tension; and accepting and making the most of unchangeable reality when it confronts one. William C. Menninger
To recognize causes is to think, and through thought alone feelings become knowledge and are not lost, but become real and begin to mature. Hermann Hesse
Maturity is reached the day we don't need to be lied to about anything. Frank Yerby

3 comments:

whiteraven said...

I completely agree that adulthood and maturity are two entirely separate things, perhaps I phrased my sentences differently than I had aspired to.

Philip said...

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whiteraven said...

never mind... :) -embarrassed face-